A bit about hate.
This is my first piece and originally it was going to be about my journey as the mum in a neurodiverse family and how much I have changed over time. In the context of MMS I wanted to show how a parent new to autism could be vulnerable to the charlatans out there; and that there is a lot of work that can and should be done in showing them that being autistic is not the terrible fate that they have been led to believe. It was going to be about that, but that was before the terrible events of yesterday.
Hate is a double edged sword, we can hate injustice and cruelty and it will inspire us to take action. We can also hate people for being different to us and that can cause us to do reprehensible acts such as the mass killing in an Orlando gay bar. The person who did this, didn't know his victims, he didnt even live there, but he chose to kill those whom he deemed unworthy to live, simply because they were different.
I live in the UK and currently there is much debate about whether to leave or remain in the UK. It's an important decision and one that needs to be made based on useful information. Sadly the campaigns on both sides seem to be run on fear and also hate. There's so much negativity about.
Our autism community is not immune, I'm sorry to say. Instead of joining together to protect our vulnerable members some of us are arguing I've noticed this across a number of groups with people criticising each other, some of which have escalted to personal attacks and I don't think they do anyone any favours.
I'd like to bring this back to the subject of MMS as I believe hate has a large part to play in its use. We've all read that terrible phrase 'I love my son/daughter but I hate his autism'. We've all stumbled across the you tube videos that some autism parents have posted of their child in meltdown, so they can show how difficult it is to care for such a child. I wonder if they're motivated by hate rather than love? It's hard to see the love for their child in the things they show and the comments they make. It doesn't take an enormous leap of logic to see how hate for autism could lead some parents to try something as horrific as bleach on their children.
For what its worth I'd like to take hate out of the equation. I think the best way to do that is to promote neurodiversity. By being positive about autism and what it means and fighting for acceptance (instead of each other), new parents, will be less vulnerable to the quacks peddling their snake oil 'cures'. When someone tries to guilt trip them into 'recovering' their child from this terrible affliction, they should be able to say 'no thanks, my kid is great, there's nothing to recover from'. When fear-mongers say 'don't vaccinate your child, you'll make them autistic' I want people to say 'so what, they'll be fine.' We waste so much time arguing, back biting and hating when we should be sharing love, acceptance and positivity.
Lastly I'd like to bring this back to the subject that led to this piece. No one should die because of hate, my thoughts are with the Orlando victims and their families.
Thanks for reading.
P.S. I'd like to add my condolences to the familiy of Jo Cox, the British MP who
was murdered yesterday. She was active in many campaigns including
decreasing the time it took for children in her local constituency to be
diagnosed. She also worked with the National Autistic Society to develop ways
to support autistic people.